She’s keeps looking at you. She’s giving you seductive body language. But, how can you tell if a married woman wants to have an affair with you? Watch for these signs
It is so easy to misread a woman’s words, actions and intentions. Guys tend to get caught up in wishful thinking. A man will wish a woman is interested in them so whatever she says or does must mean that she wants him! Of course, we know that’s not always the case! But it’s ok to dream, right? Yeah, I guess, but I rather face up to reality and pursue a woman that I’m confident is into me not based on my hopes but based on the signs she sends that I pick up on from my keen observations and experience.
Affairs often start when a married woman wants “more”.
A married woman won’t just jump into an affair, at least, not usually. She may be interested in you for weeks, months or even years before she actually decides that she wants to move forward. One thing for sure is that she wants “more”, which means that she’s not completely satisfied with her marriage and she seeks some kind of male interaction and companionship elsewhere. But, this does not mean that she’s ready to just jump into bed with you.
A lot of affairs start out when the married woman and other guy truly being friends and then things just progress and turn into something “more”. You don’t want to rush or push her into something that she’s not yet ready for. Don’t scare her away. Let things progress at a natural flow.
Is she using eye contact to talk to you?
Married woman are masters at using eye contact to communicate. That’s why it’s important that you too become a master at eye contact in order to attract, communicate and seduce a married woman. You’re telling yourself (and maybe whoever else will listen) that she’s watching you but when her eyes meet yours, what are they telling you?
Admittedly, eye contact can be very difficult to read. I’ve fumbled the ball many times thinking that a woman was looking at me in a certain way, the way that I wanted, when in fact, she’s was just, well, looking at me – no big deal. The key to focus on is: how frequently is she looking at you? Does it appear as if she’s doing “sneak peeks” when she thinks no one is listening. Does she smile or have a sly smirk on her face when her eyes meet yours?
While eye contact is very vital to the process of attraction and seduction, you can only put but so much into eye contact. You have to look at other factors as well…
I’ve written about how to read a married woman’s body language in this blog and in my book. Body language, like eye contact, is tricky to accurately interpret. But if you’re at least close to understanding what her body is saying you can make the appropriate plan and steps to get closer and closer to you.
Does she seem to want to be close to you? How does she dress around you and how does she use her outfits to “advertise” her “assets”? Have her skirts gotten shorter and shorter? Is she giving you more cleavage these days? Her dress plays a big part in how she uses her body language.
Is she “touchy, feely” toward you? Even the most “innocent” or subtle touching has a meaning. It could mean that she’s more and more comfortable around you and that’s why you want. Again, you don’t to push things too quickly. Touching you on your shoulder, back or leg does not mean that she’s ready to rip your clothes off! But it could very well lead to that.
She comes around you more and more
The more time a married woman spends with you (that is, when it’s not really necessary) should tell you something. Let’s say that you two are co-workers and she works on the other side of the room or on another floor, yet, she keeps “bumping” into you or coming to your cubicle even when there’s really no reason to. See, before she’s interested in sleeping with you, she’s interested in you; she wants to learn more and more about you to determine whether she should go ahead and mess around.
If she’s interested she won’t be able to stay away. And the more you see her and the more she interacts with you, the more of a chance there is of something more happening between you two.
Is your name in her mouth when you’re not around?
Does that married woman talk about you to co-workers, neighbors or mutual friends? Why would a married woman talk about you when you’re not around? There’s no reason to! You are on her mind for whatever reason and it could be because she’s interested.
Maybe she’s “fishing” for information about you. Or, maybe she’s not really “hiding” her interest; she has a crush on you and that’s why she’s openly asking about you and letting others know that she likes you.
If a woman is talking about some other guy more than she is her own husband this means that her husband is in trouble! The other guy has captivated her mind. He has crept into and may now be ruling her thoughts – day and night. If that guy is you then you’re on your way to having an affair if you make the right moves at the right time.
It only takes a moment
Here’s something to remember: it only takes a moment to ignite an all-out affair.
Let me quickly share a personal experience…
Several years ago I had a crush on this older married woman and I really wanted her. We would talk and flirt a little but I just wasn’t sure if she was interested in me. But I was determined to get with her so I asked her to lunch. She didn’t seem comfortable with my proposal and she put off giving me a “yes” or “no”.
A few days went by so I approached her again. She told me that she didn’t “have time” to have lunch with me bu her eyes and even her tone of voice were saying something totally different. I could sense that. It wasn’t that she didn’t want to go out with me, she was just nervous and being cautious about having the lunch because she knew that it would most likely lead to an even more nervous yet more exciting thing: an affair.
It was at that moment that when I realized that she was interested in me. And all it took was some gentle, playful prodding to get her to eventually go out with me. If I had taken what her response to my lunch proposal literally I would have just assumed she wasn’t interested in me and given up. But based on her eye contact, body language, tone and my just my gut, it was at that moment that I knew that she wanted to have an affair. And we did.
Don’t miss that moment that could lead you to what you want…
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